STRIVING FOR AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS

4 Jan

ImageI have come to the conclusion that many of my interactions with people are not authentic. In my professional and personal life, I find my self not feeling like I cannot be real with people.  Why? I am still trying to figure out why. One of my conclusions, is that I have a traditional viewpoint of relationships. In our world today, social media has become the center of many of my interactions. Sometimes, I feel forced to participate in social media to maintain the friendships that I have. I realize very few of my contacts call me and ask me how I am doing. I reached a point where I am trying to step away from one sided relationships where I have to be the first one to call, text, email and etc. I want to feel as if someone is striving to maintain a relationship with me and me not being the only one trying to  maintain a relationship with others.

2013 in review

31 Dec

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 540 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 9 trips to carry that many people.

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YOUNG PROFESSIONAL EVENT-NEW BRUNSWICK

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Networking and mingling during the holidays.

NJ Young Professional Holiday Party 12/07/2013

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As a young professional it is important to surround yourself with people with similar interests in passion. Recently, joined Young Professionals of NJ because I wanted to network and establish relationships with people. After graduating college, it became more difficult to make and maintain relationships. Some of my friends were still in school or did not live locally. I attend the organizations holiday party at the V Lounge in New Brunswick and had a wonderful time. I encourage all people to join an organization that will get you off the couch and creating new and exciting experiences.

Do not waste your time planning!!!!

8 Dec Plan (2)

I use to plan everything.  I realize how little planning helps. Now planning is necessary but it is not the most important thing,  I  planned at this age to be in a different industry, hanging out with different people and talking about a different things. I think about all the career planning I did and career coaches  and where am I now is not where I planned in college.

When I was in college I really wanted to be in the entertainment industry. Currently, I work in the mortgage industry which is hardly creative.  I wanted to hang out with people who were ambitious and driven and I want to speak about my journey and experiences.   I am still trying to figure out what is the next best step and what actions I can take to get there.  It is not about the destination it is about the journey to the destination.

You can only control your reaction to a situation, I am not advising not to plan at all. I have a planner in my purse and jot down ideas and things that I would like to accomplish. What I am trying to say is spend more time doing and less time planning. Life will be more enjoyable.

Internal Disconnect

3 Dec

Sometimes I wake up in the morning and I feel disconnected form myself, my goals and dreams. I do not feel that way constantly but recently its a feeling that I have been experience more often.  I am stuck in this routine where I wake up in the morning and its what has to get done today ? Who do I have to call? What bill do I have to pay next? Its this Monday thru Sunday cycle and its starts over and over and over again. When will it end? Do I need to make better decisions? Do I need to check in with myself more. I am not sure.

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Pictures: Toni Braxtion, Film, Apollo Theater and Fashion Week

15 Sep

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