Growing up is really hard.
May 13th 2012 passed and that was the day that I graduated. I was at my friend’s graduation last week and could not believe that a year of college has passed by. A year has passed, I finally have a sense of direction about my future plans. There was mixed emotions as I watched my friend receive her diploma. I was grateful to have graduated college but I also began to think was college even worth it. All the struggles, the tears, the depression, the feelings of restlessness and confusion. I would say it is and has been worth it.
I started writing this post almost 7 months ago. I was upset that life was not going the way I planned. My life after college was going to be full of challenges but not this many. A year and a half later, I am in a better place. I am in school earning my event planning certificate, I have an event internship with a prestigious company and have postive healthy relationships. I can give credit for my recent success to several things: my faith in god, my passion for personal growth and my ability to appreciate tough times.
It is now May 4th, 2013 , almost two years since I graduate college. I am still writing this post. Life is full of challenges but I am still growing.I earned a full time postion at a mortgage bank and have a car of my own. I have more power and control over my life. I am writing this post so people know that the struggles that you go through are worth it. Most of the time we appreciate the struggle after the experiences has passed. How about people appreciate the struggle when there experiencing it.
1. From the words of Whitney Houston … I rather be alone then unhappy.
2. The person literally makes you sick. I am talking your laying in bed.
3. You more comfortable being alone than you were with the actual person.
4. Too much drama
5. Your not getting anything for all the effort your putting in. Constantly, trying to make something work that is not working is a waste of time.
6. Your not with your with equal.
7. You just want to be single and mingle with other people.
8. You want more time for yourself.
9. You realize the energy your investing in your relationship should be invested in yourself.
10. Your not ready for commitment.
1. I applied constantly. I would dream about finding a job. I thought about find a job all the TIME.
2. I opened myself to the wonders of the universe. I tried all options. I staffing agencies, newspapers, online, Linkedin and networking.
3. I never stopped taking risks when finding a job. I have had some terrible job experiences but I learned what I did and did not like. I found myself in each job and continue to find myself in the new job that I have.
4. I prayed.
5. I focused on it. I told everybody that I wanted a job. I put that energy in the air and attracted what I thought I wanted.
6. I had a plan most of the time. Too much planning is bad and too little planning is worse. I did what I wanted to do. Any passion I had I followed it and when full time job came, I took the job.
7. Start from the bottom and work your way up. I had a degree and I felt that someone should give me a job.
8. Ask your friends for jobs. My friends ask me about opportunities and help me find opportunities.
9. Intern. Interning helped me stay busy and build connections.
10. It is my time. I struggled to find a full time job. It was not my time yet. I had to work hard and go through the process of finding a job like everybody else.
I stole the title from Beyonce.
Many of us may not have the lifestyle like Beyonce but for many of us our lives are fulfilled with all the blessings and dreams that our heart desires. I finally found a job and now have a car. I am not complete by these external accomplishments but the hard work and determination that I put in to achieving those goals. Accomplishing a goal and getting my life in balance has and will always be the battle of my life. I encourage everyone to dream big and realize that anybody life can be anything but just a dream.
The state of my being is to worry. I love to worry, I enjoy it. I bask in worrying about everything. I came to the conclusion that I operate in a state of worry. I make decisiongs because I am worried. I will not say certain things because I am worried about what others will think. I will not try certain things because I am worried about how it will turn out. I use to not be that way.
Unfortnately that is not healthy. I decided to figure out what makes me worry.
I have moments where I am grateful for the success that I have. The opportunities that come my way and the new people I meet every single day. However, being successful comes with a lot of stress. Trying to pursue multiple projects at once, work and maintain a social life can leave little room for personal growth. It is important on this journey to success that you develop a separate identity from you work, family and relationships.
How do you go about that?
1. Give yourself space to breath from your own success. Schedule personal time each day or week. Give yourself time to mediate on other things outside of your success. Volunteer for a day or read a book about a subject you know nothing about.
2. Pray your stress away. Any way you choose to pray, do it.
3. Do not spend every second planning your new step. Letting things happen organically sometimes is the best way to success. Let opportunities come to you for a change.
4. Collaborate with others on their success. Volunteer to mentor someone or help a friend or family in need.
How do you relax from all the stress created from your success?
Those are my suggestions. Have a great weekend.